What Happens When You Resist Commitment?

by Michelle Barr on July 9, 2013

“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstances permit. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.” — Art Turock

YesI still remember the day, sitting in San Diego in a conference aimed at getting me in touch with and connected to my big mission and my big life, and Lisa Sasevich, looking right at me, asked, “Are you merely interested or committed?”

Wow! What a question. That one not only spoke to me; it reached out and grabbed me by the shoulders and shook me a little. Up until that moment, I had been dabbling, playing in the possibilities, dreaming about all the things I could do and would do. I had big intentions. And yet, I was dancing around the edges, dipping my toe in, surveying the surface, without diving in.

Lisa called me to action that day, and nothing has ever been the same since. Everything I had learned and experienced up to that moment had prepared me to step into the fullness of it. All I had to do was show up, just as I was.

Randy Pausch, who is well-known for his speech The Last Lecture, said, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people!”

It’s when you come to that place, your own brick wall, that you make a choice to either commit or retreat. You are always either moving towards or away from your goal, your vision, your mission, your truth. In that moment lies the opportunity to say, “I am doing this!,” to face what is in your way, open up to the next step and move forward, doing what is necessary to create the future you are meant to be living now.

When you retreat, nothing happens. At first. But when you have a big vision, a mission calling to you, a purpose for being here on this planet that you are not expressing, and dreams for something better, it will eat away at you slowly. You will become more and more disconnected from your truth, from who you really are, and from your Source that feeds and supports you into your greatness.

I lived in this desert for a long time. Many years. I wandered in a wilderness of my own making. I cried out. I got stuck. I lost touch with myself, forgot my greatness. I found a million reasons why I could not, would not, should not pursue my purpose on this planet right then. I made promises to myself that I did not keep. It ate me alive from the inside out.

Something very important is always hiding just behind your resistance to making a commitment to yourself to step into who you are and take that out into the world. It’s both the prison and the key to your freedom. Your choice in every moment defines it.

The moment you commit to yourself and to that greater something, everything changes. Your perspective changes. Instead of making excuses, you seek results.

It is said that, “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.” (J. W. von Goethe)

This is precisely where the magic happens!

You must sound the call, engage first, and set in motion all that is ready to rush in to be a part of your creation and your bigger life, once you are ready for it.

I have had a lot of clients come to me playing the when/then game. They give me a list of what they want and tell me they will do everything I recommend to them if I can guarantee they will get what they want from doing it. At the same time, they tell their Trusted Source, “When you provide me with all of this, then I will answer the call.”

That’s not how it works. We came here for the experience. A perfect plan does not pre-exist; it becomes as we grow and evolve. It’s an organic process, and it’s miraculous.

Do you want it badly enough?

Are you merely interested or committed?

My Facebook friend, Suzanne Evans, recently posted, “Is your Coach confronting you and creating consequences? They should be.”

My answer is yes, I have a Coach that is doing that for me. Do you?

Call To Action:

I am here to work with those who are ready to be committed rather than merely interested. I am excited to explore the possibilities and guide you as you dive in to your vision, your mission, your dreams and your truth. I have a passion for getting you out into the world using your gifts and expressing your purpose for being here on this planet in a way that supports you.  If you are ready to truly change the way you show up in your life and in your work – in your career, in your relationships, with your money – then I want to share with you my very powerful processes. If you are ready for this, I invite you to have a call with me. What we resist, persists. You can make excuses, or you can seek results.

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Barbara Becker August 22, 2013 at 8:48 am

Great article Michelle! Yes, I agree, we have to show up when you are called. Risk is part of it. Stepping into the darkness with a blindfold builds confidence because you have to trust yourself (God).
Barbara Becker recently posted..5 Tips To Stay Positive About Your Life

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MarVeena Meek (@PsychicMediumTX) August 22, 2013 at 3:25 pm

It does help to have a coach to be accountable to! My own coach was relentless but he did get a lot out of me that no one else could. I will always be grateful to him!
Thank you for a powerful article!

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Michelle Barr August 22, 2013 at 5:20 pm

I agree, MarVeena. I have not been without a Coach since 2009! It has helped me tremendously to get where I am today, both professionally and personally.

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